the region beta paradox of enjoying your beloved's company

my fiancé and i realized lately that we can accidentally go weeks without doing any big fun thing, or even something smaller like going out to a restaurant or going to the movie theatre. part of this, we agreed, was that we have so much fun just living our boring, everyday lives together, that we forget to want anything more. 

the funny thing, though, is sometimes this means a bit of sadness or insecurity or anxiety sneaks in undetected, and we're likely to attribute it to something bigger than just "we haven't seen our friends in a while." (i noticed a version of this when i was single, though i, uncharacteristically i might add, cannot seem to locate the tweet in which i described the phenomenon, where i noticed that whenever i was feeling insecure, i tried to mentally replace it with "i am in need of connection/community," and it seemed to work quite well). 

thus the region beta paradox of enjoying your beloved's company: if we were less happy at home, we'd perhaps be more likely to seek out bigger fun stuff outside of the home; but we're so happy at home, we can forget to do bigger fun things, and then end up experiencing negative feelings almost unbeknownst to us. 

at the end of the day, it's not a huge deal, and i'd much rather totally forget that other fun things exist than to need them at all costs in order to escape an unhappy home. but it's an interesting thing to ponder, and a reminder that things can be a complex mix of positives and negatives. and that  even when you meet your soulmate, you still might have to put in some effort in order to ensure you're both living as happily and healthily as you can—which includes remembering that friends and restaurants and concerts and movies exist.